Can People Change? The Psychological Möbius Strip That Keeps Us From Ending Painful Relationships

By Kathleen McCarthy posted 08-24-2021 16:54

  

“Because the unwillingness to walk away from a hurtful person is rooted in the belief that people change, the predicament gnaws at the fundaments of human nature and our ongoing effort to better understand what we are made of. Because relationships are the most fertile crucible of growth and transformation, because decades of research into psychology and the science of limbic revision have demonstrated that “who we are and who we become depends, in part, on whom we love,” this wager we place on the prospect of change is a transcendently optimistic belief. It is also a dangerous belief, for optimism can often metastasize into willful blindness.” (By Maria Popova)


            SOURCE: https://www.brainpickings.org/2021/07/16/moving-on/ 


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